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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]New poster and parent of former NCS student.  I don't know why but I have to agree that the guidance counselors are no help.  My sense is because the administration wants them to "take care" of the problems they don;t want to take care of themselves and counselors just can't.  So it becomes a dumping ground where they are there to listen and thats all -- no problem solving.  I got the sense they just want the girls who are unhappy to leave.[/quote]

Not sure why the unhappy NCS students don't leave.  It is really sad to hear them talk about how miserable they are at NCS - the school is plainly not the right fit for them.  What motivates a parent to insist on forcing the square peg into the round hole?[/quote]

Because the real problems start at 10th grade and get worse from there.  By then many students and families believe its too late in the high school career to leave, especially if the serious unhappiness hits after 11th grade has started.  Its not true, students can leave and it will be fine for them, but most people don't know that.

Its not the fit.  This is what parents of younger students at NCS tell themselves, as in "my DD is happy, doing fine.  The unhappy ones just don't fit."  But 11th or 12th grade it will become apparent that there is something toxic about the place.  Some girls will make it through OK, some won't.  I am not aware of a single recent graduate who says "I LOVE my high school."  I do know of graduates from other schools that say that.

I wish the administration would read this thread.  I think there are some thoughtful posts here and they need to know about the reputation NCS has.  Reputations become self-fulfilling.  If a school is seen as competitive and cold, only the parents who want to compete will send their kids there, reenforcing all the coldness and competitiveness.  Its going to take a serious effort to change the atmosphere at NCS and i see no willingness to do so.[/quote]

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