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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My boyfriend (32) and I (30) just ended our relationship. I’m really heartbroken. We had been together for a year and were even discussing getting engaged and married. We talked about having kids too. We both want to have kids (2 and maybe 3).
I don’t want to put my kids in daycare. I want to be a stay-at-home mom until they start school.
He doesn’t agree with this plan. We both have jobs and earn about the same amount. I believe we could manage on one income.
After two months of arguing about this, we decided to break up.
This isn’t the first time I’ve ended a relationship because the guy wasn’t okay with the idea of me being a SAHM.

There are a lot of SAHM on this board. I really need your advice. How did you persuade your husband to let you stay home? 
[b]A friend told me to not bring it up while dating because it will scare men.[/b] She recommended waiting until after I’m married and have kids. She said that they will be open up to it once they have children. Is that the right approach

Are there still guys out there in the dating world who are okay with that?
Where do I find them?
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It will scare off exactly who it should. A woman wanting to stay home with her young children is a very normal thing to want (not saying wanting a career is ABnormal, just that wanting to SAH for a period of time isn't some fringe desire that you have to be afraid to speak aloud). Men who want to be providers won't be fazed by this. And these men may (or may not) subscribe to other traditional gender norms that you might not like.[/quote]

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