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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is what she said:
OP here one last time, then signing off - we have decided we are not going. We will send something around $200 from the registry. If our son had been included, we would have given a check for several thousand.[/quote]

OP is a relative who likes to control people with money.  If they aren't going they don't need to send a gift. [/quote]

I disagree - I think if you are close enough to someone to give them thousands of dollars (or to accept that sort of money) it’s reasonable to at least expect them to reach out to acknowledge that the kid isn’t invited and maybe explain the situation.   If my aunt gave me that sort of money and then I didn’t invite her kid to my wedding or offer any explanation, I think most of my family would fine that kind of rude.[/quote]

Why would you reach out? The invitation specifies 16+. A host never calls each guest to go over what the invitations already specify. It's basic etiquette. And it's exactly so because all such calls would turn into a dramafest! Any explanation would be turned around and argued over. [/quote]

Yeah, I guess you have a different relationship your family.  If I excluded only one of my cousins I would totally reach out to my aunt or uncle and explain, especially if they had helped put me through school.  And conversely, as someone who had a wedding with a big family and lots of guests, I was fine answering the occasional question from my guests - they were my closest friends and family, why not?[/quote]

NP. I agree with you. So consider that neither the nephew nor OP picked up the phone. That tells me there's something very weird about their relationship.[/quote]

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