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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have not read the whole thread, I suspect I would not be surprised.

The only polite things to say when someone tells you where they got in are

Congratulations!
They will be very lucky to have you!
What a wonderful choice (insert some random thing you know about the school)
What do you plan to study there?

[b]Things that are not OK:[/b]

Eww who wants to go there

You only got in because you are (rich, poor, race, religion, legacy, non-academic talent, 
[i]Adding also full-pay status, applying ED[/i])

Oh your kid got in for English?  My kid was deferred for Engineering there, which js clearly much harder.

I’ve heard they love a sob story there.  You probably got in because (insert someone’s trauma)

Their admissions are so hard to predict.

I am sure if my kid went to (private or public, whichever the kid didn’t go to) they would have gotten in[/quote]

This.  It’s not about if legacy is an advantage or not, it’s about not being gracious when someone shares good news.[/quote]

DP.  We have no info about how OP’s son “shared the good news.” Maybe he was low key about it, maybe not. Maybe the other kid was justified pointing out the son’s double legacy privilege. We don’t know those circumstances. The fact that the other kid knew where OP and her DH went suggests that the son (or OP and her DH) don’t try to keep this info private. And for OP to come on here and act like legacy isn’t an advantage—and how on earth do I get others to understand that it was all merit— is what turned the focus to that issue. [/quote]

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