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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have not read the whole thread, I suspect I would not be surprised.

The only polite things to say when someone tells you where they got in are

Congratulations!
They will be very lucky to have you!
What a wonderful choice (insert some random thing you know about the school)
What do you plan to study there?

[b]Things that are not OK:[/b]

Eww who wants to go there

You only got in because you are (rich, poor, race, religion, legacy, non-academic talent, 
[i]Adding also full-pay status, applying ED[/i])

Oh your kid got in for English?  My kid was deferred for Engineering there, which js clearly much harder.

I’ve heard they love a sob story there.  You probably got in because (insert someone’s trauma)

Their admissions are so hard to predict.

I am sure if my kid went to (private or public, whichever the kid didn’t go to) they would have gotten in[/quote]

This.  It’s not about if legacy is an advantage or not, it’s about not being gracious when someone shares good news.[/quote]

Exactly. This is why this time of year is incredibly difficult. The kid who got in should be humble in revealing the good news (and if they sense that the other kid does not have good news, they shouldn't reveal it unless very specifically asked). And the other kids should be gracious in being happy for them, even if they are understandably frustrated at the way the system works.

It really isn't that hard. This is basic decency. And this is what this thread was supposed to be about.[/quote]

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