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[quote=Anonymous][quote]Triaging tasks IS a task.[/quote]

I don't disagree.

[quote]A spouse who refuses to even pay attention to communications from the school or activities and participate in the task of figuring out what is important and what is not is shirking a necessary parental duty.[/quote]

I'm sorry your husband is useless.

[quote]No one is arguing that everything is important. [/quote]

At least one poster was equating a one-and-done red dress to medical care. This is recklessly close enough to "everything is important".

[quote]The point is that some things are important, and when women get assigned the entire category of "school" or "kid's clothes and hair", they wind up taking it all on -- tracking communications, screening for importance, assigning importance, delegating if possible, following up to ensure important tasks are completed. All of this is work. OP's point is that her husband does not participate in any of that work and does not acknowledge or recognize that she is doing it and this is unequal. [/quote]

We're advising OP to lighten the load. Let go of the one-and-done red dress "need"s.

[quote]It does not actually matter if you personally think it is not important for OP's daughter to be wearing a red dress for a caroling outing with an activity group. OP was left to handle all aspects of that activity and chose to make sure her daughter had a red dress. The burden is not the dress, it's ownership of the task. Her DH has taken no ownership of any of these tasks. [/quote]

The husband not taking ownership & and a spouse then "choosing" something does not automatically make something a necessity. She volunteered to burden herself with a task she decided was necessary, in an already over-burdened situation with a useless husband. It did not have to be necessary. I know. I've caroled without a one-and-done red dress.
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