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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it so off putting when lonely people who randomly live near you think you’re supposed to be friends. It’s so presumptuous and creepy. There was a rich charismatic guy on a podcast today — Bill Simmons — and he said he wants absolutely nothing to do with his neighbors. I think most people feel that way. A wave of we drive by each other and that’s it.[/quote]

This makes me sad. Being casual friends with your neighbors can bring some joy to life and make everyday living fun. First off, it’s easy and convenient. You can casually get together or grab drinks without having to drive somewhere. It’s fun for children and it’s good to build a sense of community.

Keeping your family isolated is teaching your kids that community doesn’t matter and you don’t care about other people. You don’t realize you’re teaching them this, but you are.

I have some neighbors who come and go and have not made a single friend in the neighborhood and I think it’s bizarre they will spend 15-20 years of their life here and one day drive away without having made a single connection.

A lifestyle where you work on your computer on Teams and only hang with your spouse and kids is self-limiting and not much fun. [/quote]

Agreed. It strikes me as sad. Geographic community isn't the only kind, but it does matter.

Most of the time I wish I made more money and lived in a bigger house with a bigger yard, but sometimes I read stuff like this and think "[b]ugh, rich people culture sucks, glad to miss out on that[/b]." [/quote]

I live in a wealthy neighborhood and observe very little socializing. I rarely come across someone having a party, people over or really any social activity. [/quote]

The people kiddy corner from me have kids the same age who play with mine in my yard and even in my house. They never said a word to me. I went over there intending to talk to the mom and she refused to make eye contact, hustled inside and sent her husband out!  He was awkward but cordial.
How can i be good enough to host your kids but not good enough to talk to you? Obviously they don't think we're that bad or they wouldn't let their kids come here.
I don't understand how people with such poor social skills make decent money.
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OMG thank you for this post! We just spent a week in Delaware, my kids made friends with two other kids the same ages at the pool. The other kids were nice, the younger one shy but eager to meet my DD and the older very normal, and got along well with my DS. We saw them every single day. The parents didn’t make eye contact with either DH or I at all—not once over six days. We even ran into them when we went to two different restaurants and to a beach that was 30 minutes away and the kids said hi to each other. But you guessed it, not even a nod from the parents. It became our family inside joke that the parents might be aliens or have secret identities which is why they could not speak to anyone.

I’m not glad to know there are others like this but I’m glad PP shared their story. Maybe it’s the same couple?[/quote]

Not surprised at all by this story. Not sure what’s going on but it’s bizarre. [/quote]

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