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+1 DING DING DING!  My DH would get a lot more from me if he didn't A) try to initiate when I am already falling asleep, B) make a fucking effort to hire a babysitter or schedule dates and B) not stay up after me or sleep in on the weekend when I am up at 7am with my son.  If you want sex, get the fuck up before I have a preschooler running around.  Otherwise, quit bitching.  There's only so many hours in the day and I am not doing it at 11pm on a weeknight when I have been up since 5:30 and have to work in the morning.  I need sleep.  Get over it.[/quote]

THIS.  [/quote]

OP here.  It's not fair that that DH would sleep in, i agree.  But having to hire a sitter to go on a date as a pre-requisite to sex is freaking ridiculous.  sex is as important as sleep, except maybe to a LD spouse.[/quote]

My LD spouse has made it clear, over and over, that sex (and TV and booze) are all more important than sex. It's because he says, "Sex is work."  You people wonder why I finally had an affair after 15 years of this nonsense.[/quote]

But see, this is a bigger problem than just sex.  There is a difference between an LD spouse who is bewildered by their own changes and trying to work toward an acceptable solution and your spouse, who just sounds like a lazy jerk.  But there are a lot of HD posters on here who are painting all LD spouses with a broad brush, suggesting that they have been lied to, that we are all passive-aggressive withholders, etc etc etc.  We are not.  When you have experienced this dramatic shift in your drive and all the other myriad changes that go along with being a new parent, and your spouse is unsympathetic and not trying to see your POV, well, then you are not a great spouse either IMO and you must accept part of the blame.  I[b] don't see a lot of HDer's on here accepting THEIR roles in the situation[/b].  I see a lot of blame, anger and excuse making for their own failings.[/quote]

What roles is that?[/quote]

Go back and read the thread; see if you can't begin to figure it out.[/quote]

Can't you write it in 1 sentence?   :)[/quote]

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