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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What is the draw of the sorority?

Is it to find friends and a peer group?

I had no interest in rush, as I knew almost nothing about it except that a friend had a mother in a sorority and so had been planning to rush her whole life.  However, one of my parents encouraged me to give it a try and as I went to community college first and was heading to school as a sophomore, I decided to rush and see how it went.  I figured I would just drop out if I didn't like it and if I didn't it would help me integrate into a big state school starting a year behind my peers.

So, rushed and literally knew nothing about sororities.  Liked one and put it first but ended up in my second choice.  As an adult still involved in the alum group 30 years later, it was a better fit.

But, what did I get out of it.  As a bit of an introvert - more concentrated time with individual people as there was continuity.  For example, regular meetings and events with many of the same people compared to classes where you don't much time to talk to individuals and then each semester new classes and new people.  And, I didn't have an idea of my major and wasn't a sports or drama kid so finding a club wasn't obvious.

Also, learning to deal with bigger groups.  That was generally not my thing but life it full of groups at work, kids sports, etc. and now I can walk into anywhere and start up a conversation.

Leadership.  I ended up being President of the Chapter which I never would have imagined.  It was probably the most enlightening thing I did that carried over into my career.

Service.  I didn't not grow up with a lot of service as a focus.  I learned a lot about individual and group service, finding the right fit to make it something you do lifelong (this and the leadership piece mean that over the course of time I have stepped in and led at least two struggling non-profits in my spare time).

Friends.  While meeting people at school was the idea in college this has turned out to be another area that was unexpected.  I have stayed involved in the alum group and have friends who have just finished school to many years retired and from all areas of the country/backgrounds/jobs.  In DC this may sound fairly normal.  But, it isn't necessarily in many places.  And, those friends aren't tied to a job or my kids school which has been nice.

Anyway, I am sure people have different reasons for joining.  But, these are things I realize now looking back.[/quote]

PP with daughter rushing now…thank you for this! This is awesome. [/quote]

One thing to keep in mind is that if your daughter gets to the pref round then those sororities would love to have your daughter. It is her job to really express what she loves about each and why she sees herself there. The only times I personally have heard someone not getting a bid is when they did the nuclear option. Also known as a suicide option.  I have continued to be involved in my sorority since college and really that is it. That is a gamble that I cannot encourage. If you are not on a given sorority top quota list you are done. You not only lose the option to then obtain your second choice but you also lose the chance to get to your first choice should some of the PNM above you choose another house. Keep in mind a house may be your daughter’s first choice but someone on their top pref list may choose another sorority. List keeps moving to next PNM if that makes sense.
Good luck to your daughter.
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