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[quote=Anonymous]New poster here, so sorry if I missed these points.

First off, why do you even want kids OP? I didn't see anything from you about this desire. You can easily achieve your lifestyle being DINKs. I just dont read any  real love and desire for kids. Sure, you can provide them with a basic life. I could get that if you intend to spend a lot of time raising them and not want to miss out on any moments, but you want your wife to do that. So...why not just skip kids? You might resent them when they screw up your plans and change your wife's outlooks. No one can prepare for parenthood and there is a good chance your wife, no matter what she was like before kids, may change. So unless you love kids, just don't have any.

Second, life just can't be planned out the way you have. The ability to plan can be a great thing but also a great downfall if it goes too far. To any smart woman, the inflexibility that comes through in your posts would be a giant red flag. That, along with the fact that you already have your own life planned out without input from this woman. You will never find someone who is just willing to step into a role you assigned for her. Certainly not a woman who has already saved a million (or even 200k) by 33. Nope.

Third, life just gets expensive. When we were single, both DH and I were extremely frugal. I might not have planned FIRE like you did but we just didn't spend much. Easy to be frugal when single. A little harder when in a relationship if you even want to attempt to woe your significant other. Then impossible with a family. As a single woman, if you told me how much our family spends now, I would be in shock and would honestly have no idea how it would be possible. But yet here we are.

Very few women want to sign up for such a capped life. You will have to assume your future wife is very poor and desperate or very young and naive and trying to escape her life. Those women might be attracted to your money and life but I can't say that it would be the healthiest or longest lasting marriage. [/quote]

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