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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Also happy to hear responses from dads![/quote]

This is my response.

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When I started this thread, I was actually hopeful that there might be some decent men who’d read it and be honest enough to acknowledge, in an anonymous setting, that they definitely enjoy dad privilege and have some sense of shame about it when confronted by the issue.

I guess I’m unsurprised by the lack of that type of response and the abundance of hateful misogyny.

I trust the data, and the evidence I’ve observed with my own eyes for 5+ decades now across generations. In the majority of marriage and/or cohabiting committed hetero couples, women are still doing the lion’s share - while the lion naps in the shade.
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I do think there are men who have the self awareness to at least consider this point of view. I think my DH is open-minded in this way, even though I know he'd also push back on some stuff. I also think he's become more self-aware about this stuff as I have gently pushed back on some of his assumptions, or pointed out what some of the assumed divisions of labor in our household might be telling our kids, especially our daughter, about her role in the world and her value as a person. He wouldn't agree with all of these but he'd agree with many, and he's especially cognizant of how much more slack he is granted as a dad than I am as a mom, when it comes to how people outside our immediate family (our parents, teachers and childcare providers, friends, neighbors) treat us. But he doesn't read/post on DCUM.

I think there is a large contingent of MRAs who post here constantly, especially on any post related to gender politics. I also think some of the most critical posts in this thread come from women who take pleasure in criticizing other women because it allows them to feel superior. I don't think this thread is a cross-section of of dads, it's a some self-selected men who I think are particularly angry about or triggered by any implication that men have privilege in our society.[/quote]

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