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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Ok so the Narcan is a great analogy and the "I am not supplying my kids with condom" moms are clearly also the "I'd not supplying my kids with Narcan" moms.

They think by not offering anything and being stern with their own personal values that their kids won't do drugs or have sex.  And they think if you put some condoms and/or narcan in your house it will be immediately be a drug-infested brothel.  And that is just how their parenting is going to be and they think it's correct.  So be it.  Kudos to you all. [/quote]

I absolutely 100% expect my kids not to do drugs.  If my kids need narcan then the failure on my part happened years BEFORE that point was reached, not the point at which I didn’t supply narcan.  I would never send my teen to a party with narcan to “save others” - if I thought that would be a concern, my teen would NOT BE GOING to that party.

I am fully aware that at some point my teens will have sex, but I expect them to 1) buy and use protection like the mature-enough-to-have-sex people they think they are, and 2) put enough effort into sneaking around that I don’t have to know about their sex lives.[/quote]

THANK YOU! I really don't know why this thought process is so radical to some people.

I repeat: [b]If you have to buy protection for people who want to engage in sex, maybe they're not old or mature enough to do so???[/b] And somehow I'm the crazy person for finding it to be absurd that I as a parent should supply my minor children with condoms so they can have sex and I can deal with the consequences if even despite my giving them condoms, a pregnancy or STD happens anyway???[/quote]

Do you think that not buying condoms is going to prevent them from having sex? Like a kid who wants to have sex is going to say “well I guess I won’t do it now because I couldn’t find any condoms in the house.”[/quote]

Honestly… in many cases, yes.  In many cases teens really want to have sex BUT they also have internalized that they absolutely shouldn’t unless they use protection.  With two people involved, you have double the chances of one of them calling it off unless a condom is available.[/quote]

You are in fact, absolutely incorrect!!!

Results: Most teens (69%) had recently engaged in unprotected sex and 41% were willing to in the future.[/quote]

I am confident that my teens fall in that 30% bucket of “exceptional” kids who have healthy self esteem, a modicum of impulse control, and are not complete morons.

I suspect the other posters on this thread who agree with me (despite the nutjob crying troll every other post, there really are many of us!) are also raising “exceptional” kids.  In fact, our kids are probably hanging out together doing age-appropriate things while your kids are screwing in your bed or off reviving their ODing friends down at the gas station.[/quote]

Totally serious question: let’s say my (fictitious) 14 yo daughter was having regular sex with condoms I supplied to her. What makes your kid (who absolutely positively would NEVER have sex until she’s married) better than my kid?  All else being equal (meaning my kid is ALSO partaking in age appropriate activities, is a talented athlete, is doing well in school, and is a joy to be around)?[/quote]

Well for starters in this fictitious scenario, my daughter would be better than your daughter because she would be clever enough, responsible enough, and capable enough to purchase her own condoms whenever it is she decides she’s ready for sex, rather than needing her mommy to do it for her.[/quote]

So what else?  Besides this major indicator of fabulousness?[/quote]

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