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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just hold firm with no. They don’t need to agree or understand. It’s the OP’s decision.

It’s 100% reasonable to be able to work a few hours from home with your own 2 kids. It’s crazy to think that the OP could do this with 4 kids, 2 new cousins. I wouldn’t get a random sitter either. BILs childcare is not her problem to solve at all.

MIL is a rude obnoxious boundary pusher to expect OP to take PTO to be the childcare provider. There is no point trying to get someone like this to understand so just tell the old busybody to pound sand. [/quote]

+1.  You and DH can decide if he wants to go to the wedding and drive back that night or spend the night.  Or not go at all.  You aren't childcare for BIL, especially if it means you have to take a day off of work.  Maybe it would be different if the kids were upper elementary and middle school, but not 4 kids under the age of five.

Where do SIL's family live?  Can't BIL come alone and SIL can find childcare for their kids in their own city while she runs the marathon?[/quote]

Why is it SILs job to find childcare? She had plans that weekend already and her DH was the agreed upon childcare. Her marathon may not be in town, and aside from that - she has probably planned and trained for months for this event. BIL has already agreed to be home for HIS children that weekend so his wife can do something important to her. He can choose to not attend this inconvenient, childfree wedding that requires travel, or he can find some sort of alternative childcare that weekend. [/quote]

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