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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Continuing my point, and in response to the spousal comparison, spouses do not hold legitimate authority over one another. You could not spank your spouse against his or her will anymore than you could seize their iPhone, or confine them to their room, or the time out chair. If you put your spouse in time out against her will, that would likewise be considered domestic violence.[/quote]
If you wouldn't treat an adult that way, why on earth would you subject a child to that? Is it, perhaps, because the child has no power and no means of defense or retaliation? If your child is so out of hand that hitting them seems like your best option, then you suck as a parent and as a human.[/quote]

What do you mean if I wouldn’t treat an adult that way? Do you put an adult in time out when they are crying and don’t want to sit there? Do you force an adult physically into their seatbelt if they are refusing to do so? If an adult is dirty, do you pull their clothes off and set them in the bathtub even if they are resisting?[/quote]
I never did those things with my children. Having been abused as a child, I am very sensitive of my children's needs. When they were little and acting out, it was usually because they were tired, hungry or in some challenging developmental phase. I never forced my child into any seat, tub or situation by force or threat of force. When logic and bribery failed, natural consequences ensued. You don't get in your seat, we don't drive anywhere, etc. I am by no means a perfect parent, I am definitely good enough and I have never abused my kids. To be clear: I consider your examples to be abusive.[/quote]

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