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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][code]I know several children whose fathers cheated. It devastated them. One women is incredibly insecure. In college she would wake up before her boyfriend to go pick full make up on so she would look "perfect" when he first saw her each day. And she was naturally beautiful. So sad. But she feared that she would lose him otherwise.

Another saw her devoted mom alone, rejected and sad for the end of her life, while she HAD to watch her father have a new baby with his young secretary (both of whom had betrayed her mom) if she wanted any relationship with her dad at all. It was so painful for her.
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Any stories where the mother cheated? I have some.

I know of two families where the mom had a child from an affair, and each mom pretended the baby belonged to her husband. This happens often enough that DNA testing should be a normal part of a newborn's hospital stay.

I know of another where the mom had an affair with their pastor and tried to blame getting an STD on the dad.

Let's get a little balance here.[/quote]

I know one that invites men off the websites to bang her in the family home when her kids are at school and husband at work….for over a decade.  Multiple affairs.  No condoms needed.  Husband still married to her.  Neighbor.  And, no, it’s not an open marriage.  She pretends to be loving mom and wife. It’s sickening.  [/quote]

[b]The MYOB cult here will hate this[/b], but I'd consider outing her to the DH anonymously. He should realize that he might end up with an STI. Seriously, this is one reason why the cheated-on spouses, men or women, need to know about the cheating--especially in this case with the cheater having sex with not just one AP over a long time but a lot of different people. [/quote]
Yeah. I'm part of this cult. We're called grownups. 
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So you grownups think another adult has no real right to agency over his own life and does not deserve to know if he's being exposed to STIs. Got it. You're the "Live and let live, MYOB" folks. At least, until you're the ones cheated on. [/quote]
Grownups don’t insert themselves into others’ marriages. Especially if they are not best friends. It’s trashy AF and there is likely to be blowback on the busybody. You simply do not know what goes on behind closed doors. [/quote]

If you’re a very good friend to the betrayed spouse I think you absolutely do. That’s not PP’s situation but as I friend I won’t add betrayal to somebody who has already been betrayed. [/quote]

+1 to the above. You're responding to a high and mighty PP who was responding to me. Thanks for nailing the answer. I still would likely out the neighbor even if the spouse and I weren't close friends. He deserves to know he's at high risk for STIs thanks to his spouse finding men online for multiple affairs. "Hey, Bill, I've noticed a lot of men coming and going at the house during the day the past few months. Are you having some work done in the house? A guy was here just yesterday afternoon. Didn't see a work truck, though." Don't care if that earlier PP thinks it's not "grown up" enough for them. If the DH knows all about it, he can shrug it off and tell me, "Oh, yeah, getting some work done on the house, that's all." No blowback involved. [/quote]

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