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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Any update, OP? I've been thinking about you. Sorry you're in such a tough situation.[/quote]

This is OP back.

I haven’t wanted to post on here with any specifics because I am afraid of my ex reading this, and things got uglier. But things have been absolute hell and when my DS turns 18 in a couple months, I genuinely fear he will never speak to my ex again. I did not alienate my ex - he alienated himself from our son.[/quote]

It sounds like you did help alienate him.  Hope you aren't going to demand Dad pay for college now.[/quote]

Troll, read the thread, it was addressed. [/quote]

+1. OP, ignore the troll. Sorry things have been so ugly. I see this happening with my 17yo nephew, although the facts are a little different (no football, closer than 80 miles, etc.) and he just turned 17 so still has a year to go. At least you only have a couple months to go, and if there is no relationship between DS and your ex after that, then so be it. Hang in there. [/quote]

You are the troll if you cannot see why [b]the relationship between a father and the child are important.[/b]  No wonder teens are so screwed up with people like you advising them.[/quote]
Clearly the father doesn't see it this way, If he did he wouldn't have moved so far away and he would be willing to work with his son for a more convenient visitation schedule.     [/quote]

He moved for better housing. Not inreadonable. Maybe mom moved too. [/quote]

Bigger house is more important than spending time with kid, got it[/quote]

Kid is with dad four days a month.  So, it makes sense to move further out.  Kid needs a bedroom.  [/quote]

You don’t need to move “further out” an HOUR AWAY to get a second bedroom. Just get a condo.[/quote]

Condos have lots of fees.  Staying close would make sense with shared custody but this is just four days a month.  Mom could have moved closer. [/quote]

Yup, this dad cares more about avoiding condo fees than he does about his son, even in the weird fan fiction you’re writing about him. [/quote]

You are writing fan fiction. Condo fees can be more than a mortgage. Makes zero sense. He sees the kid four days a month but even if he was close mom would still refuse visits so distance is not a factor.  [/quote]

Condo fees are zero if you buy a town home. Or rent. Even in your made up story (which the OP has told you, over and over, is wrong) the dad comes out looking like the kind of parent that any teen would despise. [/quote]

It clearly made sense for dad to move.  Even if he stayed close the friends, activities and job would have been the same excuse.  Dad has kid four days a month.  Why stay in a crappy rental or condo when fast forward there is no contact let alone visits.  [/quote]

It makes sense as long as you agree that his child was not the priority. Your argument seems to be that the kid should still make the dad a priority despite being treated as less important than avoiding condo fees.[/quote]

Your argument makes no sense.  You are saying Dad should move to a condo vs. buy a house.  Why?  Dad has the child at best 2 a month for two days.  Children do't dictate where kids live.  And, kid hasn't had visits in how long so Dad should live in a crappy overpriced condo to make mom happy?  Why?  Nothing he will do will make Mom happy or get her to support visits.  Even if he was closer there would be plenty of excuses of why child couldn't visit.  Parental alienation at its finest. [/quote]

You have the chicken and the egg mixed up.  The kid only visits twice a month BECAUSE the dad lives so far away - not the other way around.  If Dad had chosen to live closer, the schedule would have been different (and likely not as painful for the poor kid).  Read the f-ing thread.[/quote]

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