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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]30M here and I'll give my perspective, I don't think there's one single cause but a huge one is the prevalence of dating apps. A lot of these articles ignore how dating apps have risen to become the dominant way that singles are meeting these days, and they are extremely unfavorable to men who are not in the top 5-10% looks bracket. I never see this mentioned in any of the published commentary on this topic but it's intensely talked about on various internet forums.

I don't believe the main issue is education or income, as I know plenty of men who are above average in this area and they still struggle immensely to meet women because they aren't particularly good looking (not ugly, just not tall/hot/ripped) and they have zero outlets to meet women in person, so they go on Tinder or Hinge and get ignored... as in can't even get a single date. These are guys in their 20's/early 30's who have advanced degrees making 200-300k.

On dating apps a small cohort of good looking men are monopolizing access to women, IMO the problem lies in how they force you to evaluate a partner on looks and nothing more. With men, this isn't much of a problem because men already prioritized looks before dating apps. With women, it is a problem because women by nature are more multi faceted in evaluating a potential partner. But when women use dating apps they are FORCED to only choose men on looks which isn't something they would normally do in person, and it turns out that when women are judging men on looks alone they tend to be much more ruthless and can only find a small % of the male population good enough. Men can find a broad range of women visually attractive, but women can only find a small percent of men visually attractive (if they know nothing about the guy).

It's now become socially unacceptable, or just too risky, to approach women in many real life situations. As a result, men are flooding to dating apps where 80-90% just can't compete.[/quote]

This is one of the few posts on this thread that I think added something important.  This does sound correct and is not something I previously considered.  Especially now that meeting women at work is more risky — if you don’t meet a woman in college, it really does become hard to meet a woman and have her get to know your personality.  And women are often as attracted by personality as anything else.  We need more things like clubs and activities for young people.  Certain religious or ethnic groups are really good at that—but most Americans don’t have that.[/quote]

80-90% can't compete? Well gee, I see a lot of young guys getting married and they're not Calvin Klein models. My advice to guys. Go to places where woman outnumber men -  book clubs, singles groups at museums and the symphony. Or Sierra Club. What makes you think every woman likes dating apps and is looking and rejecting?[/quote]

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