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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dh was fat as a kid and teen. He has often said he wishes his parents would have helped him by teaching him about nutrition and fitness. You all are doing your kids a real disservice. [/quote]

Not really. Studies show that all the education in nutrition and exercise in the world doesn’t really matter that much; most people have very little control over their weight. That’s why the new recommendations for pediatric obesity involve medication or even bariatric surgery for teenagers. The chances are high that even if his parents had tried everything to intervene it wouldn’t have mattered. It didn’t for me, I remained and remain obese despite my parents pressing the issue very very hard and trying to control my eating and exercise, taking me to doctors and nutritionist. Nothing they did helped me become a thin adult but it did really mess me up emotionally.

There was an episode today on this topic on The Daily podcast. I highly recommend your DH listen to it, it may help him accept that his parents didn’t do him a disservice at all. [/quote]

This makes no sense unless you disclose what you were eating each day and your activity level.

Stop this nonsense about how you just have no idea why you were obese. People are obese because they overeat, overeat the wrong calories (sugar carbs, fat), and don’t get a base level of activity output per day.

If you ignore that basic fact and skip right to meds, stomach stapling, hormones, you’re and idiot. Get on noom, and own it: everything that goes into your month. Write it down. Think about why you’re an eating agin, what yours eating. Empty processed food calories again? Write it down. Go over it yourself. Take baby step incremental changes. Have a goal for 6 and 12 months. Do it. [/quote]

I mean, I was a child. 8 years old. Obviously I was overeating, but why? Most kids can regulate. [/quote]

Why were you overeating??? Because your caretakers didn’t notice, care, or care to do anything to help you.

They were the adults in the room. Giving you access to whatever you were eating whenever you were eating. Pigging out on water-based fruits and vegetables won’t make you overweight. It’s takes as much calories to digest it as you earn by eating it.

Pigging out on salty, sweet, or fat foods and getting into the 2000+ calories a day relax plus lots of tv time is the opposite. Daily Juice and soda are devastating on a child’s metabolism. This has been known for decades across the globe. 
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See, that’s where you’re wrong. My parents tried very hard to control what I ate and my activity for many many years. I was not allowed to pig out on lots of foods—although I would seek it out when out of my parents’ control. My point is everything my parents did didn’t work to make me thin, but it did cause a lot of emotional damage. [/quote]

So they never got you tested or a neuropsych for your impulse issues or addictions or emotional food problems?

what does that even mean "seek out" foods? You'd have money every day and eat from vending machines or the 7-11? And your parents never noticed your dorito breath or money missing or did the math on what they knew you ate at 3 meals and how big you were? [/quote]

Well, this was 30 years ago, so no. That probably would have helped, but they were using the best information they had in 1990.

My point is that short of locking me in my room and feeding me a 1200 calorie diet, there was not much more they could do. [/quote]

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