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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Something doesn’t sound right to me - you are pumping, nursing AND supplementing? Maybe change the order of things to stretch out the time between feedings. How about he feeds the baby a formula bottle at 11pm, thus giving you a longer stretch of sleep that may also increase your production before the next feeding?

BTW, doctors and lactation consultants can advise you, but only you and your baby know how to work this out. Why are you pumping on maternity leave? It is really helping your supply more than exclusively breast feeding?

I totally get the desire to supply your own milk, but sometimes your baby needs more than you can make. Also, are YOU drinking and eating enough, in addition to napping whenever the baby does? Helps a LOT with supply.[/quote]

OP here. I was feeding at 10, going to bed at 11 and then sleeping until 3/4am. I nurse exclusively for all feeds except the bottle my husband was giving the baby. I pump after every ffed during the day to stimulate production. I supplement in the evening and a night with formula.

I trust my doctor and her experience. I also trust the location consultant. He has weight gain issues and needs to ear every 3 hours, day and night.

I am eating and drinking plenty. I make 20-24 ounces and he is eating 24-28 ounces. I only give him 4-8 ounces of formula a day. [/quote]

Meh, I nursed each kid for a year, and I say your doctor and lactation consultant are making too big of a deal of this.  My kids are teens and looking back,[b] the pressure on women to lose sleep and sanity for breastfeeding seems wholly out of proportion with actual benefits[/b]. [/quote]

This thread is nuts.  Women will always be second class citizens as long as they continue to engage in something like breastfeeding which is extremely taxing and time consuming and has marginal benefits.  Formula is freedom and it makes me angry how many women sacrifice their life to breastfeed.  [/quote]

??? Honestly I think those women are doing breastfeeding wrong. I have 3 kids and the 3rd is a baby still (so my memory isn't foggy!)- breastfeeding is hands down the easiest. Zero bottles, zero cleaning, zero pumping. I just rolled over and nursed babies, and then back in the bassinet. Babies were so comforted by nursing too. I never had to bring anything with me for feeding. I just really enjoyed the freedom breastfeeding gave me. I did pump when I returned to work and that was easy too (pump 3x a day at my desk in my private office- yes that's a luxury that not all women have). But I only pumped so that when I was home with my babies I could breastfeed without supplementing.

I'm sure formula is just as easy (and I'm absolutely not knocking formula moms) but stop hating on breastfeeding! I agree though that all the pumping and double feeding needs to stop. [/quote]

I’m glad breast feeding was easy for you. You are lucky; it’s not for every mom. I exhausted myself into PPD despite working with a lactation consultant (it turned out I had a breast duct issue that would not allow fatty breast milk to pass). Hearing other people go on and on about how easy it was and you must be doing something wrong is an unkind thing to say to a new mom.[/quote]

No here. I'm sorry to hear that you struggled but there's some truth to what pp said we have way over complicated feeding infants which leads to more stress and anxiety which in turn can cause other issues.

Resources are great babies who would have died thousands of years ago are being saved but at the same time humanity managed to survive with breastfeeding for thousands of years before it be and the industry it hasand that wouldn't be possible if it was a cross the board difficult[/quote]

Lots of those families had wet nurses. [/quote]

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