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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So DS 30's has finally gone into therapy to work on himself, but now he is basically blaming me and my marriage problem/fighting, my religion that I forced on him, my homeschooling, my house rules, etc. All these things caused his mental problems and unhappiness according to his therapist. I have apologized[b] if I contributed [/b]but there is not much to be done now. He wrote me a letter about it. It's depressing have all this blame hurled at me, I can't change the past and I wasn't a perfect parent - but we did our best and I thought he had a fairly happy childhood, much better than DH and I. I tried to give him the childhood I wanted as a kid. It's causing me to feel down. No one can hurt you like your kid.[/quote]

If you don't accept responsibility, then you aren't really apologizing. You acknowledge that your marriage was high conflict, but refuse to take responsibility for protecting your child from it.  [/quote]

Where are you getting this? OP says nothing about how she responded to the letter and it’s not clear she’s even responded yet. I read “if I contributed” to mean “I apologized for the things under my control,” - it’s you putting a spin of “not my fault” on it. [/quote]m

Your reading is convoluted. “If” I contributed means the speaker does not agree that they contributed.[/quote]

No it doesn’t. Only if you’re trying to take out your mommy/daddy issues on OP. [/quote]

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