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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think adoption is much too serious an issue to let a troll derail the discussion so I will choose to ignore their incidiary posts.  Back to topic.

Per PP, this issue stood out for me:

"...You needed a lot more counseling before you were allowed to adopt. I suggest the sooner the better before your kid is older. You will need it. There's going to be some surprises in your future and you have not one tool with which to cope."

Counseling and screening of adoptive parents is virtually non-existent especially when their checkbook tips the balance scale.

In our family's adoption situation both adoptive parents have serious mental health issues (which can impact a child's development) yet they were not adequately screened as part of the adoption process. They are able to put on a very convincing public face for a short period of time.

I think they looked very good superficially with their UMC existence and professions yet the rest of us all know the incredible dysfunction, violence, criminality and addiction that is in both their backgrounds.

IMO if the birth family had any knowledge of the parents' background they never would have agreed to the adoption. [/quote]

That is frightening and another example of lack of accountability in the adoption world. [/quote]

I was stunned that such basic background questions like, "Is/was there addiction in your immediate family?  Is/was there domestic violence in your immediate family?  Do any of your immediate family have a criminal record?  Is there a history of mental illness in your family?"

How in the world can an adoption take place without asking these basic questions?  But it did.  [/quote]

Even if questions are asked, there is huge incentive to lie or minimize.[/quote]
We had to get a background check and [b]our doctors had to fill out forms stating we were fit to adopt. [/b]It was part of the home study. I think that’s pretty common.[/quote]

Was your adoption through an agency or private?

Curious about how physicians can attest to a patient's fitness for adoption. Was it solely your physical condition or did it include a psychological eval? Did you have to consent to a full-fledged disclosure or was in limited in scope? For example, did the form say "Are you aware of any physical condition that would preclude Larla from being a parent?"  [b]I think it's important for potential adopters to know this requirement going in, if it is common. [/b] [/quote]

All adoptions go through a home study, whether private or not. Adoption falls under state laws, so the requirements may differ from state to state. As well, different agencies may have their own forms for your doctor to complete. All potential adopters do know this requirement, because it is part of the home study. As someone who wants to adopt, it would be your responsibility to make sure you can complete the forms and provide the documentation required by the home study. The doctors can attest to your physical fitness, whether, to their knowledge, you've had an addiction or other mental problem that would preclude you from being fit to parent (you may also need to have a urine drug test). The social worker also completes some sort of psychological assessment. There is also a criminal background check. Is it perfect? No, it is not. But the pp seems to think that no questions were asked prior to the adoption s/he mentions, which is simply not true.[/quote]

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