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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think adoption is much too serious an issue to let a troll derail the discussion so I will choose to ignore their incidiary posts.  Back to topic.

Per PP, this issue stood out for me:

"...You needed a lot more counseling before you were allowed to adopt. I suggest the sooner the better before your kid is older. You will need it. There's going to be some surprises in your future and you have not one tool with which to cope."

Counseling and screening of adoptive parents is virtually non-existent especially when their checkbook tips the balance scale.

In our family's adoption situation both adoptive parents have serious mental health issues (which can impact a child's development) yet they were not adequately screened as part of the adoption process. They are able to put on a very convincing public face for a short period of time.

I think they looked very good superficially with their UMC existence and professions yet the rest of us all know the incredible dysfunction, violence, criminality and addiction that is in both their backgrounds.

IMO if the birth family had any knowledge of the parents' background they never would have agreed to the adoption. [/quote]

That is frightening and another example of lack of accountability in the adoption world. [/quote]

I was stunned that such basic background questions like, "Is/was there addiction in your immediate family?  Is/was there domestic violence in your immediate family?  Do any of your immediate family have a criminal record?  Is there a history of mental illness in your family?"

How in the world can an adoption take place without asking these basic questions?  But it did.  [/quote]

Since when are they not asked?  I was asked for each of my adoptions and everyone living in the house had to undergo a criminal background check. [/quote]

Please. An au pair goes through a more thorough background check.

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No, they do not.  [/quote]

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