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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know why I’m so amazed by all the people defending the MIL here, but I am.

A lot of people really don’t seem to think you’re allowed to want or need space from parents once you are grown. To me this is such an old fashioned and unhealthy dynamic. It doesn’t make families closer— it just breeds resentment and makes your grown kids want to push you away.

If I were MIL in this situation and wanted to travel at a certain time, I’d plan on going to a late lunch nearby and then arriving at 4pm. Better yet, I’d ask if we could take the grandkids to a special Christmas Eve lunch with us, pick them up at noon, and then do lunch and a long walk, and arrive at my son and DIL’s house around 4. I mean, if I was up for it, that would be an incredibly kind way to cut my kids a break over the holidays and allow me to spend more quality time with my grandkids.

But I would never insist on showing up 3-4 hours earlier than requested, especially after my DIL had told me that she needs the time to feel ready for overnight guests. Sheesh. Y’all are entitled.[/quote]

You sound like an awesome MIL/Grandma! Assuming you would take no for an answer if there were already plans for lunch 😀[/quote]

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