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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a few women whose husbands earn an ok amount but probably not enough to full pay private college tuition or have enough saved for retirement. I am sure their everyday lives of a comfortable home and modest vacations are fine.

I am guessing this is the type of situation OP is in.

I know some women in this situation and they also don’t want to go back to work. I’m a SAHM also and think this is kind of lazy. My kids are still young.[/quote]

Maybe you don’t realize the realities of going back to work when kids are older: you usually still need to find something with a lot of flexibility for kid illnesses or all of the random school holidays, unless your spouse can really take over all of that stuff. You also don’t have a lot of vacation time when you first start out so you’ll be trying to save that up, and can’t just take off on a family vacation anytime. These are reasons why some women don’t find it worth it to go back to work. [/quote]

What about personal and professional growth? Learning new skills? Challenging yourself? These are all good reasons to work. [/quote]

There are good reasons to take some classes, find some hobbies.  But not to chain yourself to 40 hr/week employment that now you have to schedule everything else around, take off a ton of days (or find childcare) for holiday breaks, conference days, summer, hope your time off aligns with spouses if you ever want to go on vacation.  If you don't need the income and the job you are taking isn't something you are incredibly passionate about- it seems like a lot of extra "busy" work with little benefit.[/quote]

No, the benefits are professional recognition and resume-building, plus having health benefits in case the husband dies or loses his job. There's no good reason to not work when so many working parents can do it.[/quote]

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