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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP - if your dad has weeks of vacation time banked, he ought to consider using 1/2 days rather than just staying home full time until Medicaid comes through.  If he can do that, it would allow him to stay in touch with work which would help him from becoming isolated at home while taking care of your mother.  Using 1/2 days would also stretch the amount of time that he has available to do that.

The fact that he hadn't even considered this prior to asking you to start coming in the afternoons to help out may indicate that he's either already at the end of his rope, or has difficulty processing his options and instead will default to just leaning on you for help.  Hopefully if nothing else you will have gotten a few useful pieces of advice from this discussion about looking at all possible solutions and the costs associated with each (financial, emotional, etc) before choosing a plan in the future.  [/quote]

I will guess that he has already put a sizable chunk in his annual leave contending with this and that is a part of why this has become such a crisis now.

I would also caution to understand the pros and cons of FMLA. That leave becomes unpaid after a point and I don't know if that would impact his pension calculation or not.  I would be sure to ask about that.[/quote]

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