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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have thought about this, my mindset.  Yes, I know cheating is wrong.  But after years of rejection, I prioritize happiness as follows 1) my kids, 2) mine, 3) spouse

Divorce is the easy way out.  My kids deserve better.[/quote]

As most cheaters do, you are engaging in a false but self-serving story that your cheating is “for the kids”.  It’s no less manipulative than those who say they’re keeping the affair secret from the wife to protect her from pain. [/quote]

I assume my wife knows, although she doesn't know who.  Wouldn't you assume your DH has gone from initiating all the time (and getting rejected 99% o the time) to getting needs met elsewhere if its been a year?  She doesn't ask questions, she doesn't want to know[/quote]

She knows that she’s rejected sex with her normal libido husband. Since she’s not divorced you, that means she wants to stay married and the only way that’s possible is you getting sex elsewhere. There are no secrets here. No self serving. He’s doing her a solid by having an affair to keep their sexless marriage together.[/quote]

Thanks for this, PPs. Interesting perspective.[/quote]

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