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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, there are some scripts on Mr Money Mustache on how to talk to your spouse re: money.  You might have to look around a bit to find them.

Big picture it sounds like you are overstressed and your health is suffering from the stress.  I'd emphasize that to her.

If she wants to stay part time I'd suggest downsizing your life.
Sell a car. Move to an apartment.  Buy clothes at thrift shops etc. Get the $25 per month phone plan. Eliminate cable etc.[/quote]

[b]Why should the family downsize to underwrite the wife's laziness?[/b][/quote]

I think it is a bit much to call the wife "lazy" since we are only hearing from the person who is writing the story.[/quote]

She raises the kids and works part time, but she's lazy? WTH?[/quote]

[b]I'm assuming the DW does everything home related as well.[/b] I sense some jealousy from women who would love to be in that position. Probably because they have to pick up the slack from their husbands who won't do their fair share at home. 
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Well, the OP says otherwise.  And I know very few SAHMs who really do absolutely everything at home.  They always expect their spouse to pitch in when they are home and help with the kids and housework.

I would not want to be in the position of having a stressed-out spouse who is anxious about being the sole breadwinner, and refusing to ramp up my hours (which this woman can do easily).  Because then I'd have a spouse who was unhappy and resentful, and that would mean a crappy marriage, and inability to pay for college for my kids,, and limited options in retirement.  None of that sounds fun.  [/quote]

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