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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your assumption, though, PP, is that she is mourning the loss of a possible sibling, NOT the loss of having a pregnancy and a biological child of your own. Your glib question about adoption was offensive in that it is completely uninformed.

Your logic continues to fail. "Thousands of families adopt every year." Thousands of families have bio children every year. Doesn't make it possible or right for every family.

Further, I am not sure if you are the sam poster who seems to insist that it is better to have a team of children and live in the burbs rather than one and the city, but whoever is saying this is ridic.

First, it is not always about not wanting your life to be overly child centered. It maybe about being grateful that you are past the baby stage and can have some of your own life again? So...

I may be financial reasons--you can afford one, but not more, regardless of where you live.

You like living in the city or in small places, and have some perspective and know that not having siblings is not going to ruin your child. [/quote]

And I have some perspective about adopting a child when it's not possible to have another biologically. Few people mourn simply not being able to become pregnant. Pregnanyc, if all goes well, leads to a child. And I do understand the longing for a biological child. I also understand that it is entirely possible to overcome the idea that a biological child is the only acceptable way to build a family and love an adopted child just the same as a biological child. While I am not the original poster, I didn't see any reference in that post to anyone having "teams" of children. I did see a reference to the benefits of children having siblings. I also think that's a benefit well worth considering. Of course a child doesn't "need" siblings, anymore than a child "needs" to attend a tony private school or a top public school. But people try to provide these things for their children because they believe they'll benefit the child. I'm suggesting that having siblings provides life long benefits that are important to consider. Not only do siblings help a child learn how to compromise with others, resolve conflicts and cope with not being the center of attention, but they also form a life long support network that becomes increasingly impotant when parents become older and need support from their children.  There's more to consider than just whether the two parents want more than one child to optimize their own child raising experience.[/quote]

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