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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm the professor who wrote at the top of this page. Even staff who do not work directly with someone initially refer to faculty by "professor." It is simply the formal title used in this professional setting. It is the default unless someone insists on a first name. My belief is that professors should not ask students to refer to them by their first name. If they do insist students use their first name, I would worry they have boundary isssues.

I am flabbergasted to read all these parents who are shocked or resentful that there are formal boundaries in academia. It's not about subservience. It's about professionalism. [/quote]

I am someone who has a title that could be used and doesn't, not a shocked parent. I will not insist [b]another adult[/b] address me in a subservient manner. [/quote]

OK, but do you really feel that college students are adults just because they have reached the legal adult age? I think we are talking about undergrads here.

[b] Come to think of it, when I was in business school and most of the students were in fact adults, we still called our professors by their last name as they did with us.[/b] [/quote]

Nobody's saying that's not perfect fine and that's your prerogative. Would your b-school professors harm or dock you or slight you in any way for simply using their first name? Probably not. But folks in these thread are arguing it's okay for professors to do just that[b] if a young adult doesn't bow down and kiss the pinky ring every email[/b].[/quote]

There it is again -- that weird fetish for hyperbole.

Something tells me that this PP's life has been full of consternation and rage. [/quote]

I'm not full of rage. I think [b]an adult who goes nuclear[/b] because a 18-22 year old called them their first name is the one harboring psychological demons.[/quote]

So telling an undergraduate that professional norms do not include calling your professor by first name without being invited to is … "going nuclear?"

Yeah, there's some unacknowledged issues there. [/quote]

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