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This is a valid and healthy topic and if parents are actually able to share their opinions without harrassment life on these boards would be a bit more pleasant.  We just need to stop trying to prove that others have insincere motives and just have a simple discussion about our kids.

I'm seriously not trying to convey that a gifted parent hasn't said completely stupid or obnoxious things before.  I've seen them.  Many times though I think their intentions start out as sincerely just trying to discuss an issue and [b]they are met with such rudenss that tempers heat up [/b]and people say things that are ignorant because emotions have clouded judgement.  Then others start pointing fingers saying, "look, this is why gifted parents have a bad name" without taking the context of the situation into account or acknowledging the fact that [b]the gifted parent may have been subjected to many rude or sarcastic posts before she "lost it".[/b]

It's like a good natured dog (sorry ladies, I'm not inferring anything  :lol:).  [b]If you poke it and tease it for long enough it will bite [/b]and then the dog may face losing his home unfairly.  [b]Most of these gifted parents are good natured dogs who have been tormented i[/b]nto lashing out and then suffer unfair judgements.

Before anyone posts another ignorant post coming from a gifted parent as an example I would like for you to consider the context of the statement.  How did the situation get to that point?  How many prior posts were insulting or sarcastic or supporting of the negative posts.

That's why I think it's just best for EVERYONE to give EVERYONE else the benefit of the doubt.  A lot more meaningful and positive discussions as well as healthy debates can take place.[/quote]

Let me start by agreeing that parents of non-gifted kids frequently say ignorant and rude things, too.  The "freak" poster is an obvious example.

However, where I disagree with your post is how it provides a [i][b]blanket [/b][/i]excuse for gifted parents who post rude and obnoxious things.  I've bolded the multiple places in your post where you argue that gifted parents are, seemingly, always "goaded into it."  While it would be nice to prove my point by providing context from DCUM, I'm afraid that's impossible because you'd have to post an entire thread - many pages - and then say, "look, according to my personal interpretation, there was nothing to justify this gifted parent's obnoxious post!"

You seem to start with the assumption that a gifted parent is a good-natured, but tomented, dog.  I start with the assumption, based on my personal observations from DCUM, that this may sometimes be the case, but it's certainly not always the case:  some gifted parents are just obnoxious.  If you want to see some real nastiness, check out the Yahoo group for MoCo GTA parents, where presumably everybody is on the same side, but in fact the personal attacks are outlandish. I've never posted there, because it's often so horrible.  And I suspect some of the offenders from the MoCo GTA group (and yes, you post there under your own names) are posting here anonymously. Frankly, sometimes gifted parents just post obnoxious and rude things. Without being goaded into it.  [/quote]

I didn't give a blanket excuse.  I said that many times this is the case rather than all the time.  I was trying to convey that they are not all terrible people and shouldn't be pounced on immediately.  They should be given the benefit of the doubt.

I don't have experience with the GTA board and it sounds really depressing so I think I'll stay away.[/quote]

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