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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know a lot of people were spanked as children and had no psychological damage, but I did. I don't remember it well, but apparently I was pretty traumatized after a spanking incident. I went from being a normal, happy, outgoing kindergartener to being completely shut down, and I never recovered. No friends, didn't talk to most people, just played on my own, and [b] spent a lot of time zoned out/in my head. Ended up being a total weirdo for most of my life and to this day I haven't really had any close relationships[/b] (except my husband). My dad still cries about it 30 years later because he feels so awful about what it did to me.

I ended up working in applied behavior analysis for several years so I have a LOT of tools for dealing with childrens' (and adults'!) behavior without needing to use physical punishment. I've never even needing to consider spanking because I'm able to address the problem in other ways. I do highly encourage all parents to read up on applied behavior analysis since it is so effective and gives you multiple ways of addressing behavior problems.  [/quote]

Sounds like me, and I was spanked.

But also my son, who is not.

I do agree there are so many other ways to modify behavior that are not physical or even punitive. Rather I keep looking at the bigger picture and that Rome wasn't built in a day. That takes the pressure off the immediate moment to "fix" whatever behavior needs to be addressed. So far, so good. [/quote]

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