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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Holy shit. The stuff in middle school and junior high was nothing. Wait until shes a young lady and attracting male attention from all sides.  Empower her, don't make her a victim. [/quote]

I'm not OP- what in the world do you mean by this?[/quote]

Not the PP, but OP could teach her daughter to loudly say, I don't appreciate that! I will be letting the principle and your parents know about this. Or fend off and block the guy. Or hit him.

There are some really bad people in the world. I was walking in Spain when a group of migrant workers came up to me and a gang of them accosted me and assaulted me touching me through my clothes. I fended them off by knocking them off. OP's daughter should figure out how to defend herself and stand up for herself, and assess the situation instead of immediately involving the police.[/quote]

PP you are responding to.  Ok, I see what you are saying.  I agree.  I also OP should contact the school, and let this be a learning experience for the young man as well that slapping people's butts is not funny or acceptable.[/quote]

Helicopter parenting at its finest.[/quote]

Why is this helicopter parenting?[/quote]

NP. I don't think this is helicopter parenting.

I'm a dad of two girls. I understand the dynamics at play here. It's all fine and good to try to "empower" your daughters to stand up for themselves and counter unwanted male attention. Yes. But a 12 yo girl really doesn't possess the assertiveness yet to do this. Meanwhile, if a boy that does what was described is permitted to go get away with it without severe consequences being meted out, then the lesson here is that this is somehow acceptable, and next time it won't be just unwanted touching; that "next time" may occur a decade from now, but the foundation of that attitude begins now.

So, here's what needs to happen. The boy needs to be tracked down. The girl's parents need to go over and describe to the boy's parents what happened and give them a factual account of what happened. The boy's parents are to be appropriately horrified and assure the girl's parents they will nip this in the bud now and the boy will be disciplined at home. If the boy's parents do not behave in this expected fashion, then the girl's parents are free to involve the police -- a visit from a cop to investigate sexual battery, even if the end result isn't an arrest (because no one really wants that, not even the 12 yo girl) it should be to scare the boy senseless into knowing that what he did was unconditionally inappropriate and not sanctioned by anyone.

Then, the 12 yo girl really needs to be told to let it go (with the appropriate lessons about asserting herself in the future). Ideally, the boy apologizes, and they become friends.

But, this is indeed serious and warrants a serious reaction.[/quote]

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