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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]PP, you indeed referenced where Shaquanda was from, not where she is headed. Yes, I would rather have my AA son date Shaquanda from the hood but who is getting good grades, sings at church and runs track in hopes of getting a scholarship for college than precious Snowflake who has no idea of what it is like to be AA in this country and doesn't understand why a white person doesn't have a pass to use the n word...and doesn't care. "From the hood" means nothing since most AAs in the US somehow worked their way up from slavery. Since my grandparents were share-croppers who put my dad through law school. Since my in-laws are a mix of have and have less but who share the common goal of trying to do better for the next generation.[/quote]

Do you just refuse to read posts?  The whole point is that Shaquanda would be dating your soon being uneducated with nothing "going on" and would rely on your son for her suppport, etc.  SO of course she can change in the future but if her intent is to live off your son then its just GREAT to know that you would rather have someone leeching off your son (potentially) than someone who is already sufficient.

Thanks for proving that SKIN COLOR matter most to you.[/quote]

I did read. And you said Shaquanda from the hood. Where she is from is not relevant to me. You seem to think that I should infer, from your reference to her name and current living situation, where she will be in the future, where her aspirations lie and what type of partner she will be for my son. Shaquanda from the hood with goals, yes, a preference. Shaquanda, Becky. Ling, Pocahontas or Maria from anywhere with no real goals, a sense of entitlement, a history of poor life decisions and no willingness to accept guidance, and no, that is not acceptable.

You don't just throw out a made up name and a person's living situation and assume that other people assume the same things about her that you do. YOU are racist. YOU are classist. You don't gett o lecture anyone anywhere on the sad, sad state of affairs on race. Bad girl. [/quote]

I was not going to respond but you call ME racist.  Ahahaha.  I would welcome your white, black, asian, latino, gay, straight, son or daughter into my home with the utmost respect.  I would NOT judge my childs potential mate on SKIN color you ass.

Go back to your racist home and spew you crap there.  I gave a scenario with a "ghetto" name and cited the "projects".  GASP.  I could easily give an example of "Crystal" who lives as a stripper in the trailor park and who the hell cares.  Thats not racist or classist its an example of a scenario we all know exists in this country on both accounts.

Look in the mirror you nasty piece of work because it YOU who is the racist.  I dont judge based on a freaking skin color.  If you are the angry AA woman god help your children.  Hopefully they know what a judgemental witch you are and stay far far away from you as you age and get worse.[/quote]

You did not say that Shanequa was a stripper. You threw out a stereotypical name, said she lived in the hood and used that as a means to judge her future. That was it. Other details/assumptions came later.  Basically, black and poor is what you said. So a poor black girl has to be that forever...ok. You didn't mention her age. Are we talking about a 12 year old who is still in school? Or a 25 year-old? Two different stages of life. A 12 yr old in the projects isn't there because of her own choices, so as long as she sees a way out, she is fine by me. If Crystal is a stripper I assume that she is 18 or so, which means that she is in a different age category and capable of making other decisions. I am glad that you would welcome any color/race into your home and you should count yourself as fortunate that race is something that means nothing to you, or that it is not central to your experience as an American. That you have never been called a racial slur, had people assume negative, stereotypical things about you or offer blanket criticism of your race whenever they feel like it. This dialogue should be an example to you of what people mean when they say they "prefer" that their child date inside their race, especially as an AA. You have no idea, although so many people have responded, of what you said that offended them and struck a race-nerve. You don't get it. And you don't have to, which is why you have not taken a step back and re-evaluated. You asked about a preference. I wouldn't make anyone feel uncomfortable in my home and I have never verbally put parameters on who my sons date. But we do try to model healthy AA relationships for them in many ways and have dialogues about race, pride in our rich ethnic history and the importance of uplifting one another. You did not ask me what I would permit, but what I would prefer. I also would prefer that my son marries a woman who likes to cook and host dinner so that we can get Thanksgiving out of our home finally and pass it down. But hey, that's not a requirement that I get to enforce. [/quote]

You don't get it and don't want to. I'm not going to write a thesis about Shaquanda and her life, lol. You are going to make something out of anything I write and I don't have time for it.

Guess what my roots are based in the Holocaust. Yah I had relatives killed based on their religion but I don't throw that in people's faces or tell them they do not understand Jewish ppl because they were not in the Holocaust. Nor do I think bad things about Germans, etc. I don't judge people like that.  You have some issues whether you want to admit it or not.

I would open my arms to an AA son in law. It's great to know you would judge my DD based on her skin. Not her values or accomplishments.  And as much as you try to justify it...it's racism.  You are basing acceptance on skin color.  It's racism.  It's something you choose to promote whether you keep it as a dirty little secret or spew it on here.  It's racism.

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