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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If he was surprised by the conversation, his first reaction may not have been the best reaction.  Don’t blow this out of proportion.

Double barrel names aren’t common outside of certain cultures and they can be a burden.

This is a good chance to use communication skills that will serve you both well in marriage.  Good luck![/quote]

I'm a woman with a double surname and have never had a single problem. [/quote]

Yeah, but you're only thinking about yourself. How does this play out over the next several generations? So three generations from now, they would be some young bride with a name with like 5 or 6 hyphens? This somewhat novel view about hyphenated last names that maintain the maiden name is so short-sighted, IMO. Do what you want. Personally, I like consolidating my family under one name and having the same last name as my children. But OP, to me the BIG red flag here is your thought to cancel your wedding and breaking off your engagement over this. Listen to your gut. This is not the man you want to marry and you're looking for an excuse to get out of it. [/quote]

I'm a woman with a hyphenated name with a daughter to whom I passed the first part of said name. I'm Larla Smith-Wilson and my daughter is Lola Smith-Father's last name. This is what they've been doing in Spain and Latin America for many years. The US is very liberal when it comes to names. All your whatifs are the result of your lack of imagination, not some legal roadblock in the law[/quote]

In this hypothetical, is Smith your mother’s surname or your father’s?
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