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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1990 here, also Ivy grad.  I've observed One And Done -OR- no kids actually.  I had a kid at 30 and was the earliest one in my friend group. [/quote]

I don't think of one and done or no kids as a flex. Three kids is very common in my area (Greenwich). That's the flex. Everything on the initial list is accurate. The running marathons is not something that I see (and I'm a former college runner so these are my people) but being very fit is definitely a flex. [/quote]

PP here. I wasn't trying to say it's a flex. Just that it's the trend I see in my cohort.  I'm 34 and I don't know anyone with 3 kids, a few with two kids, and quite a lot with one kid or no kids. [/quote]

Ah that’s because you’re still relatively young. The third kid usually comes in the later 30s. Especially the baby girl with two older brothers. I’m 39 and there’s a lot of “2 close in age and then a 3rd when the younger is around 4-5.”

The “two careers” thing is common with only one kid but by the time kid 2 or 3 enters the picture, someone is ready to lean out to a part time job, or to government from private industry/Biglaw. All the rest is extremely true and is also true of older Millennials. There is also a lot of family financial support going on. Even in higher earning couples. Grandparents help pay for an additional nanny or private pre-K-12 and contribute the max to the college savings account. [/quote]

I thought I wrote this for a second. I had two kids and DH and I both had big careers. I ended up taking a break and stayed home with my third kid. I have a five age gap between my second and third kid. I had first two kids in my early thirties and third kid at age 39.

OP still has young kids. This is doable with a good nanny. Juggling 3+ kids with a spouse who has a demanding schedule is not easy.

We are in our late forties now. Those women who seemed like super moms are now divorcing, have husbands who cheat, husbands who lose their jobs, kids who have special needs or anxiety or social problems. Everyone has problems not shown on social media.

Early years when kids wear adorable outfits on vacation to post on social media does not always continue in another decade.[/quote]

What was staying home with your third like? Mine are 6, 3, and a baby and I’m debating taking a few years off until my youngest goes to prek or kindergarten.[/quote]

I loved it! I will cherish my time home with my kids forever.

The five years with my older two while working were just a blur. I, too, have some great photos with them. I didn’t use social media back then. I was just trying to survive back then working, getting home, bedtime, checking on emails before bed. This may also have to do with having two kids two years apart so it was a handful. I had no time for myself. Not time for DH or friends. I was just exhausted all the time.

I was able to truly enjoy my time with my third. I made new friends. I feel like I started a new life when I stopped working of being very involved at the school(s) and community. I invested time in making friends and building relationships.

I have a lovely home. I host a lot. We are the hang out house and I know all my kids’ friends. 
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Sounds so nice! Glad it has been a great decision for your family. [/quote]

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