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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My SIL had a no kids allowed destination wedding at a $1000/night resort that was hours away from an airport. We had a 2 year old and had never left him overnight and no childcare options. SIL tried to paint this as an amazing opportunity to take a child free 'vacation' (all her close friends also had kids) but we didn't end up going so her only sibling wasn't there.[/quote]

Did she care? I think we've all agreed here forever that people who are determined to have expensive destination weddings have to accept that there will be people who do not attend and that may include immediate family. That isn't really what we are talking about here. [/quote]

Agreed!  Plus, sometimes having an expensive destination wedding is a way to cull the guest attendance down to people who actually want to be there!  We have told our kids we will help pay for a destination wedding when the time comes (they are in 20s) or whatever they want.  But we all agree a destination wedding is one way to weed out people who don't really care to attend.   It's your wedding, do what you want!  The day is literally about the couple and nobody else.  They should not feel obligated to invite people they don't want to or people they barely know.  For our kids, one side is a really big family (think the grandparents are each one of 9, and the dad is the baby by 15 years, so tons and tons of "relatives" thru the generations).  Our kids only know a much smaller group of the relatives---ones they (and us) truly care about.  We won't force our kids to invite "relatives" they barely know.  Just like we won't "require them to invite our friends they don't know" just because we are paying.  Now they will invite many of our friends, but that's because our kids grew up with them and their kids, so they actually know everyone (and they'd allow 4-5 couples of our friends that they don't know quite as well, but do know).  But a wedding is not a time to force 50+ people into attendance that the bride or groom has never met.  IMO a Bride/Groom should not see anyone at the wedding that at least one of them does not recognized.

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