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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A friend told me my first dh was cheating on me. She was privy to the information because my ex used her and her dh as his alibi. We were all friends. I was SO GRATEFUL to this woman for having the balls to call me and tell me something I had actually suspected. I was lied to and gaslit by my ex. My df did me a huge favor. Decades later I am still glad she told me. She said she did not want to be complicit in the lie.[/quote]

But she was your friend. She told you out of concern for you, not for her own revenge or need to make things like pain equal. Their marriage was blown up, so in her mind, yours should too *because the sectet*. The secret is over already. [/quote]

You don’t know that. Most of us that caught our friends husband cheating, and told them we’re just so glad to get that **** out of our lives.[/quote]

And many women stay. It doesn’t make them weak or less. It makes them
Different than you. [/quote]
Staying after infidelity is their choice. You know what isn't? Being lied to and gaslit and not having all the information. If I want to stay with my husband after he cheats on me, that is my choice, but at least I'm making it with ALL the information out in the open. I'd rather make that decision actually knowing what's going on. [/quote]

It's clear that the other posters know they'd never leave even if their husbands cheated on them because they can't and they don't want anyone else to know that they're too weak to do anything about it. [/quote]

DING DING DING

They have no options so they’d rather live in a delulu “good marriage” than know the truth.  [/quote]
Yes, everyone knows Hillary Clinton and Beyonce are "too weak" and "delulu".  :roll:  :roll:  :roll: [/quote]

Don't try to use their f'd up marriages as examples of a standard marriages most of us want. With fame and politics involved, people make different choices. It's sick that you try to normalize this.  [/quote]

Yes these are women who are damaged in some way regardless of wealth, and fame. [/quote]
I'ts not like PP could use regular people as an example, but I guarantee you that you know and love someone who has been the victim of infidelity and stayed and didn't tell you.

I also guarantee you that no one, NO ONE, isn't "damaged" as you say. Even the most well adjusted people I know who were raised in loving and peaceful homes have things that are messed up about them. 
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Well, even though we're all damaged, as you say, many of us wouldn't stay with cheating spouses. Stop trying to make it seem like people who wouldn't tolerate that are the crazy ones...[/quote]

Many of you are staying with so much worse. An affair is a betrayal, but so are many other things. It’s the cultural attitude in the U.S. to make the affair the gravest of possible transgressions and make sure life falls apart after. [/quote]

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