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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s because parents are involved. They’ve ruined everything![/quote]

And that gets back to the foreign elite test mill culture that has taken root. [/quote]

Omg it isn’t foreign elites. American parents are doing a fine job ruining sports on their own.[/quote]

We are "foreign elite" - highly educated immigrants with high HHI. I can tell you that our parenting is changing American parents, I can see it with our American friends. I am talking about very high academic expectations in particular. Like, expectations of excellence in whatever they are doing. Not saying it's the only factor or anything, but there is a real effect there.[/quote]

I think it's possible that among certain classes, highly competitive parenting styles "imported "from other countries, mostly east Asian and south East Asian, are affecting the culture, and that that has filtered down to the middle class.

I am chagrined about this, like many others on this thread (and it's the point of the OP's post)  This emphasis on winning, being better than others at all costs, the pursuit of the highest grades and the best schools – it's toxic and ugly.  It's the worst of human nature.  There is a reason why depression and suicide rates are sky high in Asian countries.  Some adults will say that you're glad that your parents made you play violin 8 hours a day or whatever, but this isn't the life that many of us want for our children.

I'm not blaming the competitive state of parenting today on Asian culture, but I think it is a factor.  [/quote]

+1 I am Asian American and agree with this 100%. My parents are first gen but very laidback by Asian standards. Growing up, I was struck by how strict my Asian friends' parents were - tutors, extracurriculars, Ivy Leagues, plus corporal punishment. I ended up going to a decent state school (think UT Austin) and even though I was not competitive for the same colleges/careers some of my peers went on to, I feel lucky about the childhood I was able to have and the close relationship I still have with my parents.[/quote]

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