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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][size=9] [/size][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel sorry for those who never had kids,  I think they missed out on the importance stuff. I woukd it do it all over again,  maybe even more kids. [/quote]

People who choose not to have kids are making the best decision for themselves. Feeling sorry is such a strange reaction. I would only feel sad for someone who really wanted kids but for whatever reason it didn’t happen. [/quote]

That PP is saying she feels sorry for DINKS because the PP is insecure about her own choices.

In fact, this entire thread is full of mothers who are insecure about their life choices. [b]Screaming that you [i]feel bad[/i] for childfree people[/b] and that childfree women aren’t contributing to the world is just so incredibly stupid and misogynistic. It’s embarrassingly transparent.

[NP; this is my first and only post in this thread][/quote]

I think childless people are usually aware that people feel bad for them and that they don’t think they are making the right choice. Childless people hear these tropes from naggy relatives etc all the time. It’s not fair and not grounded in reality if the childless person is happy with their choice but it’s disingenuous to pretend that that sentiment isn’t out there.

Unlike the naggy relatives asking “what do you mean you aren’t having kids?!” friends are trying to be supportive and positive even if they feel you are missing out.

I know this feels unkind but I don’t think most posters are lying when they say they enjoy parenthood and feel bad for their childless peers. [/quote]

No, those kinds of people aren’t any different than busybody relatives if they're thinking about how much they pity their childless friends when the topic of conversation is vacation plans- nothing to do with reproductive choices.

When a gay friend says he just started seeing a new guy who seems promising, do you tell him you're excited for him while secretly thinking you're sorry he'll never be able to create a biological child with that guy like you can with your spouse?

Because that's how far the leap in logic is. I'm happy with my choice to have kids, and when I talk to people who aren't parents, I'm not secretly thinking of how much I pity them, especially when they're not expressing regret over having kids or when the topic has nothing to do with kids.[/quote]

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