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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My theory is that the complainers got married young, earlier than most friends. So when they had THEIR weddings, they didn't have friends with kids. They might not even have had siblings with kids. Or maybe there were a few but it was like 3 kids and that's not hard to accommodate.

So then they got married and as their friends got married after them, they just failed to understand that circumstances were evolving all the time. If you get married at 24 and you don't have to accommodate kids at the wedding because (1) your parents are paying for the whole thing anyway so they figured it out, and (2) no one you know has kids, you might not really understand what it looks like to pay for and plan your own wedding at 32. It's not the same.

So much of the judgment people have for the way other people live comes down to this -- the mistaken assumption that their own experience is universal, and an inability to understand that individual circumstances might dictate different actions by different people. It's childish but lots of people are childish.[/quote]

The last one in our group of friends drove this point home by stating that they unfortunately could not invite kids because it would take their 100 person wedding to a 150 person wedding (or whatever the numbers were).  I specifically recall the friend who had been the first to get married commenting on that because she hadn't realized the extent of the number of kids in the extended group (because she had not dealt with it when she got married).

(for the record, I am not actually aware of anyone complaining about their kids to not be invited; I myself was thrilled to be able to have a night out with a sitter watching my kids.)[/quote]

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