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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]To OP's original post, I have the exact same feeling.  I had no idea that only doing swim 2 days a week and summer meant my child would never make the high school team (which is apparently reserved for future Olympians).  Similarly so many other doors are closed because I was afraid of being a tiger mom or pushing too hard or whatever.  But those kids are all excelling and playing on teams and taking advanced courses.  I don't think the problem is that we didn't push (I don't actually think that's good for kids) so much as that our system rewards that kind of parenting.  [/quote]

Why does your kid need to be on the high school swim team? Is the real problem that there aren’t rec teams that kids can be on to enjoy swimming? Or do you feel like you need HS swimming on your kid’s resume for college apps?[/quote]

Because it is really fun/lifetime memories playing on a high school team - and unfortunate if you can’t experience that (if you want to)[/quote]

You can also form memories playing on a rec team. The reality is not everyone makes the HS team. My husband would have loved to play basketball in high school, but he is short. Thems the breaks. [/quote]

I’m sure that would look great on your college application.

My kid is playing rec basketball in 7th and the remaining kids are all pretty bad. All the good kids have moved on to travel and AAU. Now my kid is trying out for the higher level teams as well.

My other son played rec soccer his entire life. By 7th, the good kids all played travel. Many kids stopped soccer to focus on their other sports. His 7th grade rec soccer team was so bad. DS said his team was full of unathletic kids their parents forced to sign up for a sport. He stopped playing soccer after that season.[/quote]

Yeah but all the rec teams at middle or high school level are equally bad so at least being bad doesn’t necessarily mean your team always loses.[/quote]

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