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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s weird how angry it seems to make some people when a woman chooses not to have children.  Maybe she wanted to but didn’t find the right guy (or didn’t find the right guy in time)?  Maybe she wanted to but was afraid of burdening her theoretical offspring with heritable mental or physical illnesses?  Maybe she hates kids?  Maybe she lives kids but thinks she’d be a terrible mother?

Women aren’t choosing not to have kids AT YOU.  This thread is bonkers.[/quote]

On any individual level, you are right.  But on a social/generational level, it is all our business. Because people with no family and kids will be more reliant on society and our tax dollars.  Maybe it's because I come from a society with a strong emphasis on family.  The expectation is that family takes care of each other. We don't rely on government help or policy.  That attitude makes us, as a family unit, more resilient to the ups and downs of modern life and economic surprises.  So yeah, when I see people freely choose to shun family (cutting off "toxic" family or not having kids when they can), I think it's selfish.  And then when I hear all the people protesting for more government handouts and welfare, I get pretty annoyed.  We are responsible for our own success and security in this life and family is the number one factor in obtaining that security.

Again, caveat about individual circumstances.  But i think it's clear as a whole people are becoming more selfish and focusing more on themselves. [/quote]

People are behaving rationally. We live in a late capitalism where basic living is very expensive, housing  and education expenses are though the rough and wages are stagnant. Wealth is horded at the top. Covid really exposed to me that there is almost no social safety net. No one is going to give a shit about my kids but me and mine. I did not feel resilient during covid. I felt very isolated having two young children at home and almost no resources and still being expected to work like I didn't have children.

I don't blame younger people for deciding they don't want to bring children into this world. That if our society is selfish the most rational choice is to be selfish too.

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+1.  After they left parents of young kids, and kids generally, twisting in the wind, I do. not. care. about anyone out of obligation.

Literally get out of my way or I will move you.[/quote]

Where are you going?[/quote]

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