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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From an attorney website:

IN INSTANCES OF A CHILD REFUSAL’S, THERE ARE A FEW OPTIONS PARENTS CAN TAKE.
1.  WHEN YOUR CHILD REFUSES TO VISIT WITH THE OTHER PARENT, DOCUMENT YOUR ATTEMPTS TO ADHERE TO THE CUSTODY SCHEDULE
First, the custodial parent should document every step he or she takes to adhere to the schedule. Record dates and times your child refuses and the circumstances surrounding the refusal. Record your attempts to have the child honor the custody schedule. In the case of older children, record attempts to discuss possible consequences from refusals and the possibility that the custody order can be altered to even greater detriment. List every concern or development that results in your inability to adhere to the schedule.

2.  HIRE A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST TO REVIEW AND EVALUATE YOUR CHILD’S REASONS FOR THE REFUSAL
psychologist talking to child regarding refusal to visit parent
Second, hire a child psychologist or therapist, and have the child’s fears and concerns documented by someone other than yourself. Often, a child may not want to openly discuss their issues with the other parent with the custodial parent. A therapist may be able to learn more about what is the root cause of the child’s refusal. Follow through with several appointments such that firm information can be gathered. Appraise your spouse ahead of time that you will be taking the child to a therapist. Provide the therapist’s name, address and contact information. This will demonstrate a responsible attitude of cooperation and disclosure on your part.

You’ll want to have the therapist testify in court about his or her findings. The therapist will need to appear and serve as a witness at any court proceedings regarding the custody schedule. This can be expensive. However, in the court’s eyes, such testimony will provide unbiased evidence that there is a legitimate threat to the child’s well-being.

3.  REQUEST THAT AN INDEPENDENT ATTORNEY REPRESENT YOUR CHILD
In extreme circumstances, one final tactic would be for the custodial parent to request that the child be appointed his or her own attorney. [/quote]

OP here: I appreciate this, but I don’t see what a psychologist evaluation is going to do here. My DS isn’t being psychologically harmed by spending time with his dad. He just doesn’t want to do it on the strict schedule he has followed for the last 16 years.[/quote]

He goes twice a month for one or two nights.  That is not an unreasonable expectation.  You tell him he’s going.  [/quote]

Imagine having to force your 17.5 year old to see one of their parents, and thinking it’s the kid that’s the problem. [/quote]
Image a teen having their own opinion. [/quote]

PP here. I was implying the dad was the problem.[/quote]

Or, maybe Mom doesn't want the relationship and she prioritizes everything else but Dad.  Sends a strong message to the teen that friends, activities and other things are more important.  Child wants to please mom.

Its ok.  There is no relationship anymore but don't expect financial support after the child graduates high school.  No relationship should mean no money.  If he's grown enough to make these decisions he's grown enough to financially support himself.[/quote]

Do you think OP should physically restrain her child and buckle him in the car?[/quote]

Her attitude and parenting goes a long way.  If your kids refused school would you just say fine![/quote]

And yet, OP's kid is NOT refusing school.   He's refusing to see his father. [/quote]

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