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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Men are all too happy to have a SAHM during the hard years, letting their wives do the overnights and chasing tantruming toddlers while he hangs around the office “working late.” But then the revisionist history comes out, oh actually I was fine with sharing the burden but she INSISTED… whatever you say bud. The data and my lived experience shows that men who have SAHWs see their careers take off. The idea is to not divorce and enjoy the fruit of the mutually beneficial arrangement together. There is risk on both side if that doesn’t work out, but don’t pretend you weren’t getting something out of it too. After a long career in biglaw I see right through that. [/quote]

Exactly: that's what mine did with me: we started when he was at $150K /year and I was at $85K/year. I went SAHM as he needed to travel and develop business. Just before he acquired major stock options package he decides that now it's time to divorce, after 15 years of marriage. Divorces. Starts making $1mm/year and now tells me I didn't earn any of it and it's none of my business
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Yep.  We made a decision for me to quit and my DH was able to see his career skyrocket.  With both of us working, we were both stagnating. DH made up for my lost salary within a year of me quitting and he slept through the night while I got up multiple times a night.  I've also see men step away to take care of kids as well. [b]The thing is, whoever it is, man or woman, who stays home with kids, is doing the jobs of a nanny, full time maid, a chef, a driver, a tutor and psychologist/life coach. So, add up how much you would pay each of those employees - that what the stay at home parent is doing[/b].  There is an issue of fairness here and, assuming it is a joint agreement, then it should be treated as a 50-50 proposition.  The one working couldn't pull it off successfully without the other one doing that.[/quote]

HAHAHAHA.[/quote]

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