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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly? I'm too smart to be a stay at home mom. Not saying they're dumb. I'm saying my brain needs far more intellectual stimulation then being at home with kids all day. [/quote]

I have no dog in this fight- I’ve done both- but this is ridiculous. I’ve know Ivy grads, lawyers with degrees from top 5 law schools, phDs, doctors, and former tenured professors who left the workforce to stay at home and find enough intellectual stimulation. If you are well-educated in child development, it can be really interesting to spend all day with children. Also, I have a son with asd, and [b]the best of his therapists are sharper than tacks[/b]. I actually marvel that they had the insight in their youth to find child development an interesting field.  [/quote]

So...they work? Yes?[/quote]

I am the poster you’re responding to- yes they work outside the home.. with children in a similar manner that engaged and resourceful sahm do. I mean, do you limit your friends to only those who make the same life choices as you do? No wonder this thread became so uncharitable and irrational. [/quote]

So you're admitting that in order for it to be really interesting to spend all day with children, one needs to be well-educated in child development. So where does that leave lawyers? Artists? Scientists? Maybe anyone other than child therapists? Or do you think everyone who is smart should become well-educated in child development before having children while also tending to their other full-time careers? I mean, do you hear yourself?[/quote]

We’ll, I do hear myself, but No, I would NOT say that *in order for it to be interesting* you would have to be *formally* educated in child development :lol: . I would rather clarify that if you have taken the time to learn about child development it can frame the experience of childcare in a more interesting way. Resourceful people have ways of learning about these things outside formal settings, for example - Amazon has student textbooks to rent… the library has resources… etc….  But also, of course, even people who have no interest in learning about child development can find childcare enjoyable, challenging and stimulating.  intelligent people are often (though not always) keen observers of human nature. Children are fascinating and very enjoyable to observe. The ways they learn at different ages is interesting. The way they relate to people and the world around them is interesting. And children can be so different!  Their differences create challenges, and learning to pivot around those challenges and come up with solutions is very engaging for some.

If it isn’t for you, and instead you find it wearing, that’s also fine- it doesn’t speak against intelligence or virtue. But my point is that [b]there is no need to insult the intelligence of those who do find it interesting.[/b] It’s like a mathematician not finding a literature  professor’s work to be interesting, but instead of owning it says that her work is frivolous. It’s just… clearly not true and unnecessarily caddy. [/quote]

That was never said[/quote]

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