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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My son's preschool had this mom's clique. I think you needed to own golden goose sneakers in order to get in. They all were very nice, but seemed like they just want to relive their high school days (they ALL grew up here! imagine that). I found a group of down to earth moms who don't need to flaunt their wealth to feel confident. Some of the clique moms also go to our ES, but they're sort of the odd ones out because my ES is pretty down to earth and mellow, and you don't need golden goose in order to be cool. In fact, some of them have pulled their kids out for private because they feel sort of on the outs there. I'm sure we'll all see each other again when the kids are all in HS.  I am nice to them and they're nice to me, but I find them harmless and as long as you have your own mom friends (or other friends) who cares? Why be bothered by them? [/quote]

Well yeah, you are unbothered now because once your kid got to ES, the tables turned and now you have an in-group and those moms are on the outside. Now you are the clique, and they are leaving the school because they feel isolated. You don't "feel bothered" because you are no longer on the outside.

Also, plenty of people just don't find their own mom friends, or they do but they aren't at their kid's school or in the neighborhood. And for moms in that situation, it can be really hard to always feel like an outsider and to feel there is no way to be included because you failed to meet these women at the time when that tight-knit group formed, whether it was back when they all went to high school together, or a few years ago when you were all the "down to earth moms" at the preschool and banded together against the "golden goose moms".

It's almost like... forming cliques of moms at your kids school... is bad for building a sense of community among the school's families. Even if the women in the clique are super down to earth and don't wear overpriced sneakers that look intentionally dirty.[/quote]

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