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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife and I are both professionals, we make similar salaries and share the child care and household duties evenly. She would be terribly unhappy without her career and is a highly skilled professional. I support her and her career just as she supports me in mine. There are certainly some men who deep down just want a wife barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen, but most of us have evolved beyond that.[/quote]

Most men have not evolved past that..they want both…in the same person and it is an unreasonable expectation.[/quote]

LMAO at women thinking men have unreasonable expectations. Women (and especially women over 30) inevitably have a list of 3,257 Absolute Requirements that a man must have before she will consider a relationship with him. And the truly hilarious aspect is that her requirements are steadily increasing as her hotness is steadily decreasing.[/quote]

I don’t know if men have *unreasonable* expectations (because that is idiosyncratic to the personalities and finances of a couple) but I have found that men have *uneven* expectations. I’m in a dual-career household where my husband makes about $75k more than I do, and we have a good split of domestic responsibilities. On the other hand in addition to working the same hours and doing a little more than half of the childcare (I’m nursing) there is also the expectation that I maintain a higher standard for grooming and self care than he does, which means in addition to doing everything he does, I also have to find the time for workouts, cosmetic care and clothes shopping, which I hate. I am also responsible for making sure our child looks presentable/her clothes fit.

So I would say even in a successful, balanced marriage a woman is still expected to do everything the man does, but backward and in heels[/quote]

No. In your marriage those are the expectations. We are dual career, my husband outearns me. But when I was nursing he did about 75% of the domestic duties. I took care of most of the child-related planning and stocking of needed items when they were young, but he did his share of things including night parenting so I could be rested for work. And I never put that much time into cosmetic stuff. I am thin and wear minimal makeup but I don’t do anything special to maintain it. Being healthy, sure… shopping for cute clothes, sure! But for fun and to relax — not as another item on my to do list.

As with everything in life, you can go looking for more work or you can figure out how to let go. The successful working women I know do not go looking for extra projects.[/quote]

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