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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At the end of the day, this comes down to what is important to you. I used to stress about having everything prepped, but then realized that I’d rather spend time with my in-laws than have everything look perfect, and that I could actually learn from my MIL when it came to making everything look perfect but doing 100x less work, as she had years of experience doing this same thing.

Today, my ILs come whenever they make it through the traffic, and they help prep everything so that I can get my relaxation in faster. They also bring lots of wine, etc, to make the prep fun. But that’s all because [b]we have a good relationship that we both worked to build. Not everyone can do that.[/b][/quote]

Great post.  Unfortunately OP is in the "not everyone can do that" category.  Too much navel gazing and too little respect for others, especially her elders.[/quote]

Respect should be mutual 
Respect doesn’t mean your feelings don’t matter 
That’s not healthy for anyone [/quote]

It looks like OP got the respect she was looking for. Her PILs will come later. Is this not what OP wanted? Is this healthy for everyone? Is OP feeling better now?[/quote]

Better than if she had to see her rude MIL all day instead of just for a few hours today. Cheers, OP! Hope you’re having a good day.[/quote]

PIL are coming later. OP has enough time to clean, cook, decorate and vent on DCUM. Yay![/quote]

Awww, are you the MIL no one wants to be around? Because you sure seem to have tons of time to devote to this thread. I can tell because no one else says “PIL” but you; most of us just say ILs.[/quote]

Actually, I  saw it used earlier in this thread, and I took it. I like it! Is that a problem?

Maybe I am that MIL. Who knows? I still have time. My kids are 8 and 6. I am relaxing. I am an introvert so being alone is pretty refreshing for me, so I will be glad to come over later rather than earlier :-)

My aunt is hosting our Christmas eve dinner. She likes cooking, and she does not think I cook too well(she will never say it but I know. lol). So Dh and I are in charge of drinks. I'll bring cake as well, just for an extra touch. My other aunt will cook some of the food. My siblings will bring something as well. MY ILs will bring something as well. I'll help with clean up after dinner. That's my thing. I love cleaning.

I just called my aunt and asked her when we should come over. She asked me "When do you want to come?". I laughed out loud. She did not understand what was funny. Different strokes for different folks.

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