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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a college educated married immigrant woman who found it ridiculously hard to have a kid in US and also continue my job. It was a huge shock because US is worse than a 3rd world country regarding women's right and protections in the workplace.

Thankfully, my ILs and parents came in rotation for years  and stayed on for months so that we were supported in the early childhood phase.  Eventually, when we were in better financial health, I quit to become a SAHM.  This was only possible because we worked hard to keep our costs down and DH and I have same goals, culture and a great marriage.

For our kids, we are paying all the cost of college, wedding etc, and [b]they are very aware what kind of person they should marry[/b] and that they also should remain close to us in DMV so that we can provide childcare etc.  I won't be surprised that eventually a multigenerational family structure may emerge as a way to have kids and for women to continue to be in the workforce.

Of course, all others issues remain - current and new pandemic, climate change, breakdown of law and order, prohibitive health care etc,[/quote]

What does that mean? I'm genuinely curious. Only immigrant SAHMs allowed? Or only women who make high six-figures that can afford a nanny? By your wording it could go either way.[/quote]

Oh, let me clarify.  I have told my DDs to not hold their breath that things will become better for women in the workplace. We are supporting them fully to be super qualified and well educated, but they also need to marry men who will  understand that working moms need a lot of support so that they can continue to work. They cannot marry a self-absorbed man-child or have children in a dysfunctional family. The couple need to support each other and take the help of family and other service providers to make sure that they can raise the kids properly.  They cannot expect that corporate America will not be exploitative and unfair to women and families. This is the direction that America will continue to go because women are second class citizens here. Democracy is pretty worthless in this country and it is certainly not a benevolent country.

It is quite pathetic that women left the workplace in droves during the pandemic because of childcare issues.  Yes, there are many solutions that women use when they become mothers -- earn a 6 figure salary, take help from their parents, outsource childcare, be a SAHM, have a collaborative marriage etc  or a combination of all of these...but, they cannot expect any guaranteed maternity benefits from their US employers like people in Canada get.   Isn't that a shame??[/quote]

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