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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I'd like to clarify that I am not bragging about my wealth. I AM bragging about the CHOICE that my wealth allows me, specifically as it pertains to remarriage (on a thread about remarriage). It allows me to not tolerate the bad and boorish behavior of men, because I can support myself fully an forever without one. Say what you like, but that has not been the norm for all of history, and is an aberration even today, thanks to wage gaps and non working women/mommytracking.[/quote]

Well yay for you, I guess, but I am far more impressed with women who do not have your supposed wealth and still do not "tolerate the bad and boorish behavior of men". [b]In fact, very few women today cannot support themselves forever without a man, [/b]though they may not enjoy a very luxurious lifestyle.

Your "clarification" really doesn't make you sound less awful tbh.
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That bolded statement is ridiculous. How old are you? 65+? Most women support themselves before marriage (and often for at least a decade) so they can certainly do it after. I have no idea where you would come up with such a ludicrous statement. [/quote]

Most people can, yes. It is easier to maintain one joint household than two, however. I know a subset of divorced women who were in a rush to cohabitate because of finances (with a new partner) when kids were involved. I dont think that that is ideal, and in every time I have seen it, finances have been the motivation. Not in a "golddigger" way, just in a way of two people hurt financially by divorce seeing the advantages of financially partnering, with kids sometimes being collateral damage. [/quote]

I do not know any divorced women like that. I’m divorced. This has to be an older generation thing. I have literally never seen what you described. [/quote]

In my experience it's divorced men who are like this: desperate to cohabitate or get remarried for a variety of reasons (sometimes finances, sometimes for domestic management, sometimes because of their attachment issues). Their kids usually have emotional issues, stemming from inconsistent parenting and lack of boundaries.

I can support myself financially, manage my own home, parent my own kids, and have done the work to address my issues. I don't want to support a man who can't get his literal or figurative house in order, which unfortunately describes a lot of the available men in their 40s and 50s. And I especially don't want to be the evil stepmom who imposes structure and boundaries in a home where these things do not exist.[/quote]

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